the Stubborn and Arrogant father?
there probably has been a lot of questions about the stubborn and arrogant father but mine just doesn’t make sense.
he is the financial supporter as usual but my mother chips in with her teaching paycheck (not much)
He works the same job for over 20 years. that’s auto body i’ve been there when i was suspended from school for a week one year (for suspicion of being high) and he was so arrogant about his work to the other employees the whole time but i worked with his boss’s father for a good portion of the week and did exactly as he asked and he loved me for it and i was glad to work with him because he showed me how to put in radiant floor heating system and all the electrical componets to it. my father has always been a handy man capable of fixing just about anything in a house and always get complements for house work for other people. so hes always out fixing something for someone lately hes been at a friends houseevery nightt for nearly a month fix their garage. when he come home though he has a complaint about anything he can find. for example im not allowed to cook bacon even if i clean the mess, he also got me a deep fryer for christmas and i’m not allowed to use it.
i dropped out of regular high school this year and im in a CDP adult ed that gives a traditional HS diploma after then i hope to go to college if even possible. He always has spoiled mymanipulativee sister, i literally have not done anything "fun" in over 3 years i go to the movies possibly once a year my sister goes over 10 times a year but i pay for my tickets she doesn’t she also has been to concerts andparty’ss and whatever she wants all because she has good grades. i’ve explained to him countless times that im going to graduate whenever possible, i’ve even explained my changes in religion (catholic to buddhist), I show him my favorite songs, my projects, my desire to drive, and my will for a job, just about everything yet he doesn’t remember a single thing andevery timee I show him he shows great apathy. i’ve confronted him of the injustice and he blames me and the things i can not change.
he says i am spoiled and lucky to have a father who owns a nice house and tools (constantly complains about bills, if i use a tool he goes crazy)
He doesn’trealizee no matter how i put it, i Don’t have a job, a car, a license, a Diploma, any profound skills to show off (generally balanced i’m a writer that can’t write yet), a GF, and my local friends are reduced to 2 because of college and they are always busy with school and work. he has no support for my career choice (film directing) because its not traditional.
on top of that he blames my mother for his 50 grand debt (he bought a baco, skid steer, dump truck, trailer?) is illiterate and can’t even spell words like simple. i offer to help him in any way possible he says he doesn’t need my help. he wakes me up at 6am to clean my sisters dishes then harasses me while i do it.
But worst of all i ask him to go fishing with me…he says he doesn’t have the patience and doesn’t like fishing anymore.
basically He openly ignores his mid life crisis and expects us to fix it for him.
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If anything else I’ve learned in life, the most important thing I did learn is that before I hit 30 years old, I knew nothing at all. It took years of experience and a lot of growing up before I knew how to read life and people. Judging others irrationally and belittling them to try and justify my own intelligence did nothing more than to show my own inabilities especially when it came to my parents. Keep in mind that your anger can possibly be because your life isn’t what you had anticipated it to be(being tossed out of school, no trust from dad, and a lack of skills). When you truly look at what has happened, is any of this your fault? The true sign of becoming a man is when you accept responsibility for you actions. That means accepting that most of the misfortune you experience in life is 99% your fault and no one else’s. Maybe that’s why he is hard on you as he wants to see you admit to that responsibility and do something about it. Sometimes dads aren’t as stupid as they appear regardless of education. Remember there is intelligence(in adults and kids) and there’s common sense. A person can have a wealth of college degrees, but without common sense might as well be mentally retarded because they will not be able to apply that knowledge.
save up for a car and live at a girl friends house